The first freedom is pretty self-explanatory. Fewer limits mean more freedom. More options are better than less. Less duty equals more opportunity. Of course we all want more of this kind of freedom, right?

The second form, the freedom of Agency and the ability to make things happen, is much trickier. You may have set up your life to where your afternoons are free of appointments, achieving that first definition of freedom sufficient to allow you almost unfettered optionality on how to fill that time in ways that interest you. But what are you truly able to accomplish here?

How we connect our actions of integrity enhancement to larger goals of attainment? How do we take a “random heap” of individual actions and turn them into an “integrated whole” of goal accomplishment? By turning our vague “-er” (thinner, richer, better, etc...) hopes into concrete plans through application of the SMART process.

Over the course of your 60-Day Challenge you should have plenty of opportunities to engage or even create chances to give your friends and family members new experiences of you showing up better and in more alignment with your spoken commitments.

ALL of those questions may seem very risky to ask of your friends and family! But what’s the bigger risk? Having them answered in a way that gives you opportunities to address them, or having them remain unanswered and holding you back with them in any number of ways that are invisible to you?

Through running an Action Audit 360 assessment of your Action Gaps and how they manifest in and across a wide range of your relationships, you should be given some unique insight into opportunities to improve all of them.

My previous blog on Action Gaps ended with the suggestion that efforts to close the ones you find in yourself can be a bit trickier than they might seem at first glance. I’ll try to offer some observations on what common issues come up in the process of trying and go through my 3-step CAR process for working around them in this piece.

What many people fail to realize is that their trust and confidence in themselves greatly impacts the trust and confidence that other people will have in them too. In other words, self-trust creates the strong foundation necessary for other people to place trust in you as well.

These action gaps are costly – to friendships, to professional relationships, and to reputations as a whole. In short, action gaps negatively impact one’s integrity and credibility with others.